If it's important, there's time.

In preparation for this month’s Book Club for Busy People, I have been studying Laura Vanderkam’s recent book, Off The Clock: Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done.

If you have been paying attention you will have noticed the time theme in my recent IG posts. ⏰ 😜💖

If you are at all confronted by the title of this post, you are not alone. .
I have been wrestling with this one too. I do make time for important things. Mostly people. I agree with Vanderkam that “people are a good use of time”. .

But where this statement challenges me is on the things I say are important that I just don’t do. .

Like cleaning the bathroom. . .


Don’t get me wrong! It’s not like I never clean my bathrooms. And I do like having a clean bathroom, but I will put off cleaning it in favour of doing something, anything, more fun. Which is super easy for me to do because I can say I am working (which for me is fun!) which in the hierarchy of things does seem more important than cleaning the bathroom. .

So, I am having to admit that maybe I am not being honest about what is really important to me on this point. .

And so I‘m working on noticing other things that I am not doing which I say are important. .

What are things that you are telling yourself are important but you just aren’t doing? Maybe they aren’t so important after all. And that’s ok.

 
By labelling things we aren’t doing as important we are creating time stress for ourselves.


The solution? The way I see it, we have three options:


1. Admit it’s not really important and let it go. (Not an option for my bathroom! 😜).

2. Reorganize our time so we can do it.

3. Get help. If there are other more important things you want to devote your time to, pay someone else to do that thing you aren’t doing. .

Any of these options is fine. The important thing is to be honest both about how important something is to you and how much time you are actually willing to give it.

I admit, it might be time for me to get help with my bathrooms 🛀. . . .doing so would certainly give me more time for more important things . . . And I remember the joy I used to feel when I came home to a house that someone else had cleaned. When our Cleaner retired my husband and I told ourselves we had time to do the cleaning ourselves. And we do find the time. But I am realizing, I would rather be doing other things. I used to feel guilty about that. Which is part of the reason I think we decided we could do it ourselves now. But if I am being honest, I don’t want to and I am giving myself permission to admit that and be grateful that I am in a position where I have that choice.

Deb Stellingwerff